Sunday, August 9, 2015

Budget Update

We're on week #2 of the new budget and I'd say it's going OK. The husband has spent each night this past week comparing cell phone providers and plans - turns out we're spending a ton of money on cell phones. Up until a year ago, when I was still a full fledged associate at my firm, I received a decent monthly technology allowance that covered about half of our cell phone bill so we never really worried about looking for a cheaper plan. Well, now that I don't have that added benefit, it's high time to cut the cell bill.  (If we were smart money managers, we'd have realized this a long time ago and cut our cell bill even with the technology allowance, but so it goes.)  I think he's decided TMobile or Sprint are our best bets (as opposed to our current provider, AT&T), but he's still working that out.

We have DirectTV and cut our premium channels this past week to save on the cable bill. Customer service said to call back at the end of this month, when we'll have had our contract for a full year and they'll be able to work out a new rate with us, so we're waiting to pull the plug entirely until we see what they offer. We may drop from 3 receivers to just two and we're still considering cutting cable entirely and using Netflix and Hulu instead. The one thing that is holding us back is how to handle sports without cable - the husband is a huge soccer fan and I enjoy having the GA bulldogs on the TV during the Fall. I'm not sure there's a way around this if you cut cable altogether. We could always go out to watch these events, but that seems like it could be cost prohibitive in the end as we'd be spending money at whatever bar or restaurant we went to to watch the game. So you'd save on cable but spend on food.  This is a work in progress, clearly.

We fired the yard guy and sweet husband is out there now cutting the lawn. He also lowered the temperature on the hot water heater and we reset the thermostats to try to lower the energy bill. We're also being more diligent about turning off lights in rooms we're not currently in.

I'd say the most tangible budget change is in our approach to food. I went back and pulled our food expenses since April and I'm embarrassed to admit we've been spending an average of $1800 on food a month - split between restaurants and groceries. Our new budget allots $600 total - $500 for groceries and $100 for eating out. This is a BIG cut, so it has required a lot of planning and preparation.  Last Saturday I meal planned for the week and settled on these meals:

Saturday: homemade gluten free pizza with Italian sausage
Sunday: breaded chicken cutlets (made with GF breadcrumbs), broccoli and roasted carrots
Monday: Chickpea and vegetable curry with quinoa (the boys at fish sticks as I knew they wouldn't touch the curry)
Tuesday: tacos (we never made so we have 1 lb of ground turkey for this week)
Wednesday: Crock pot pork loin with rice (moved to Tuesday's meal)
Thursday: leftovers (made grilled cheese sandwiches with bacon and avocado)
Friday: pasta with shrimp (had leftovers instead - the shrimp is frozen so no food lost here)

So husband and I went to the grocery store armed with our list and the goal of spending $125. We spent $137 which isn't bad for our first attempt at a budgeted shopping trip, especially since we weren't adding up ingredients as we went. We had to go back to the store mid-week for more bread and milk, laundry detergent, butter and strawberries. So tack on another $20 or so.  We moved around the meals a bit because we went out to dinner with friends on Wednesday night. $53 of our eating out budget is now gone, but it was worth the fun night out with friends! I also had lunch with a girlfriend and spent $8, so we have about $40 left for the month to eat out. Knowing this has definitely stopped us from swinging by Panera or 5 Guys on a night we don't feel like cooking.  We were also diligent about bringing leftovers for lunches each day (those $5-10 lunches out add up quickly)!

I will say our pantry and fridge are pretty bare right now since we have yet to grocery shop this week, but I feel good that we're not wasting food, something I knew we were doing since we weren't aware of what was always in the fridge and would often decide to eat out rather than cook what was planned.

This week we decided to try a new approach to lower the grocery bill to keep it under $125. We're going meatless for the week - here's the plan:

Saturday: Dinner at a children's birthday party
Sunday: Turkey burgers with roasted carrots (this is one of my go-to meals that I make for company often - its a delicious 5 ingredient recipe and I usually make sliders and go bunless)
Monday: Chickpea and vegetable curry with quinoa (last week's Meatless Monday meal - it was delicious, and we already have chickpeas and quinoa in the pantry)
Tuesday: Roasted vegetable and black bean tacos
Wednesday: Grilled cheese sandwiches with sliced apples and possibly a carrot and ginger soup
Thursday: Coconut Green Lentil Curry(I have a bunch of lentils in the pantry waiting to be cooked)
Friday: Shrimp pasta (or leftovers depending on my mood)

So that covers our dinners. We should have enough leftovers for lunches, but if not my go-to lunch is to brown a pound of turkey cooked with green curry paste, put over rice, roasted sweet potatoes or carrots and shredded kale with either coconut oil or ghee. It sounds odd but it is delicious.  I made this last week and ate it for lunch, a snack or breakfast each day.

Turkey veggie rice curry

For breakfasts I usually make overnight oats with steel cut oats, almond milk, chia seeds, cacao powder, maple syrup, vanilla and strawberries. I had some leftover quinoa from our curry meal so last week I also made breakfast quinoa with almond milk, shredded almonds, peanut butter and blueberries.

Breakfast quinoa (before mixing it all together)
The hubs eats granola with milk for breakfast or skips breakfast altogether. We also have to pack the boys lunch for school each day and feed them breakfast (duh). They usually eat gluten free waffles for breakfast with a ton of fruit, or toast with butter and fruit or yogurt and fruit or cereal and fruit. (They love fruit.) For their lunches we do a lot of peanut butter sandwiches or hot dogs (the Applegate organic nitrate free ones, so in my head these are nutritious), tomatoes, carrots, sliced apples, mandarin oranges, yogurt, sliced cucumber, apple sauce, string cheese, etc. So we have a lot of items on this week's grocery list for these growing boys who seem to have huge appetites these days!

I'm not sure we'll hit the food budget this month (or this week as we need to buy Julian diapers which currently comes out of the grocery budget) but I can already tell a big shift simply by being aware of the money we are spending on food and consciously trying to make positive changes. I still want to enjoy dinners out with friends and worry the $100 restaurant budget will inhibit that, so perhaps we can get our grocery bills cheaper to be able to go over the $100 every now and again if need be. Or we'll invite friends over to eat at our house so we can control the costs.) And as I say in my Beautycounter business, it's not about perfection, it's about progress!

I have not done any shopping this week on clothes or house goods, even though I've done some online perusing. We were at a friend's new house yesterday and I definitely had envy over all the new furniture and furnishings she'd bought for her house. I started picking apart each room of our house and noting what we were lacking, but quickly shifted into being thankful for what we do have. Our house may not be as pretty or put together (or big) as hers and I may still have rooms with mismatched furniture (and a dining room table with no chairs), but our home is full of love and that makes it more than enough.




This week my goal is looking into refinancing our student loans and attempting to get that payment down. I hate the thought of pushing them out even longer, but the husband had a good point - we can refinance them to lower the required monthly payment, but we can continue paying the same amount each month we're currently paying as long as we can swing it. That way if there are months where we need to spend more on one area of life (say for a broken car, the $60 oil change I paid for this week or unexpected house expense that will surely come up), we won't be stuck dipping into our savings. So here's hoping we can lower that payment!

Do you budget?  Where have you made changes to save costs?

Saturday, August 8, 2015

Maternity OOTD - Weekend Style

Happy Saturday y'all! We have a kid birthday party to hit up this afternoon North of Atlanta so I had to take off my yoga pants and put on real clothes. I have a few pairs of low rise shorts that sit under my bump so I'm rocking a pair of Ralph Lauren non-maternity black shorts with my new gray Gap maternity tank today. (Apparently I have a thing for gray these days.)  I'm also sporting my Lokai bracelet and will throw on some flip flops when it's time  to go.
It's a shorts and tank kind of hot here in Georgia.

I feel like I look more pudgy than pregnant. Oh well.

Fresh faced makeup this morning.
Hope you're having a great day!


Friday, August 7, 2015

Maternity Outfit of the Day

I have a goal of not buying any new maternity clothes this pregnancy. It's sort of a laughable goal because while I'm not usually a big shopper (unless we're talking Marshalls or TJMaxx - high fives to the Maxxinistas out there), I have this strange soft spot/impulse for buying maternity clothes, especially when I can find a good deal. It makes no sense considering you only wear these clothes for a few months. Rational decisions are never my strong suit when hormones are in full effect. But given our new budget I'm committed to stopping the insanity. 

In looking at this pic, these pants make me look a little wide, no?
Totally worth it as they are COMFY to the max.
I have all my clothes from my prior two pregnancies and I did already add two pairs of black work pants, a black skirt, a sweater and gray tank top all from Gap (on sale for a total of $100 including tax) and I got an awesome navy dress, a yellow cardigan and gray shirt from Stitch Fix (for about $160 total). (PS, never tried Stitch Fix?  Use my referral code here! They have maternity and non maternity, so everyone can try it!  You fill out a style profile and then a stylist selects 5 items, mails them to you so you can try them on in the comfort of your own home and you keep what you want and mail back what you don't like.  It's great if you're strapped for time, hate shopping or in a style rut.) The new maternity clothes were to account for the weight loss I've had this past year - I started this pregnancy about 10 pounds less than with the boys so while I was a S/M my last pregnancy (and solid M/L with Lukas topping the charts at over 200 pounds), I'm an XS/S this time around. So those large black works pants are hopefully not going to fit any time soon, if ever.

The bump is starting to appear!
And clearly I should've gotten the iron out. Oops.
In order to not spend more money on maternity clothes (especially since this is likely our last baby), I figure I'm going to need to get creative with my outfits. Mix and match. Try new styles. Ya know, get funky. And I figured I'd document that attempted creativity on the blog and show you what I come up with every day.  
These are NOT maternity pants. Seriously. Please tell me who is wearing these NOT pregnant?!
Today is jeans day at work but it's too dang hot for jeans, so I opted for a pair of non-maternity gray linen pants that have a stretchy waist (gifted to me by my momma), paired with a gray maternity top from Gap (circa pregnancy round 1), black/blue sandals and two bright necklaces. The key to maternity style, for any new moms-to-be out there, is to accessorize! I should probably commit to not buying any new accessories either, but I feel like that's just setting myself up for failure. 
Black sandals with a little poop of color in the back. Oh, hello!
Oh and if you have any XS/S/M maternity clothes you're looking to part with or don't mind loaning out, hit a girl up!

I doubled the necklaces, but I'm not sure how I like it. What do you think?
Also, I am in need of a new hairstyle, I think.  Any thoughts?
And note to self: Put on LIPSTICK prior to taking pictures of yourself! (Here's my current go to fave.)




Thursday, August 6, 2015

Back to School #Betterbeauty Specials


How is it already "Back to School!" time?! It seems like summer was just starting! Well, Beautycounter has some great limited-time bundles to kick off the new school year!

From August 1st - 15th we have three special offers to send your kids back to school with safe skin care and body care essentials. Get one or more of these bundled sets at a limited time discount of 13-15% off! These products are perfect for kids and adults of all ages. They are very gentle and have a fresh, mild scent that is gender neutral (my husband uses my products)! So if you haven't tried our body line with its yummy Citrus Mimosa scent or the Essentials skin care line, now is the perfect time!  The Face Time includes the two Best Sellers from the Essentials line and is perfect for teenagers or anyone looking for a gentle skin care routine.


Shop all three of the sets here: Beautycounter Back to School Specials


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17 Weeks. Round 3

How far along? 17 weeks today!

Next OB appointment? 3 weeks away - 20 week ultrasound and my first meeting with one of the midwives in our practice (there are 2 OBs and 2 midwives in my group). I'm thinking I might like delivering with a midwife this time. I also want to have a doula. And I'm contemplating studying the Hypnobabies program (which is different from the Hypnobirthing I did for Lukas.)

Total weight gain/loss? I've gone back to being slightly neurotic about weighing myself everyday this week (I know, I know). So far I've not gained any weight this week and depending on the day I've lost a pound or so.  With J I had gained 9.1 pounds at this point, so I'm slightly below that trend this time - coming in around 7 pounds gained right now.

Maternity clothes?  Maternity bottoms and dresses have come out in full force, but I'm still rocking my nonmaternity flowy tops.

Stretch marks? Nope.

Sleep? Bizarre. I'm back to having really strange dreams and I wake up at least once a night and just stare at the ceiling. 

Best moment last week? Definitively feeling the baby tumble in my belly while I was reading books to Lukas Tuesday night. I've felt flutters for a few weeks but this was a definite baby roll. Love that sweet feeling.

Movement? Every day!

Food cravings? No real cravings this week. We're sticking to our budget so I've been eating what we have.

Food aversions? Nothing comes to mind.

Gender? Team Yellow until January!

Labor signs? Nope.

Belly button in/out? In!

What I miss: Wine when I'm out to dinner. And a dirty vodka martini sounds nice. 

What I am looking forward to: Yoga class this weekend. I am trying out a new (to me) studio and have unlimited classes for 10 days through this Saturday. So far I've gone to a Slow Deep Stretch and a Prenatal Yoga class and loved them both.  If the husband is home from Atlanta early enough tonight I'm going to try to go to the Slow Deep Stretch Class again, and then a Flow Into Your weekend class tomorrow night and a Gentle Yoga class Saturday morning. My mood was greatly improved after the yoga classes this past week, so I think I need to carve out the time to do some deep breathing and find my zen.

Milestones: Feeling this little peach move!


17 weeks with Baby #3
Julian bump vs. Baby #3 bump @ 17 weeks


Tuesday, August 4, 2015

Uncertain Future

I haven’t written a real post in a while. I’m a hormonal ball of emotions these days so I think I’ve been scared that if I sit down and put it all on paper, the threads will finally come undone. If you ask my husband, they probably already have. I’m blaming my emotional turmoil on pregnancy hormones but the truth is that I’m scared. The future is uncertain and I’m having a hard time riding out that uncertainty.

I know I shouldn’t talk about my career and job, but fuck it.

So next month is the start of my 9th year as a lawyer. This time 8 years ago I’d just taken the bar exam and was drinking my way through Belgium, Paris and London with my then-boyfriend, now-husband. I was so relieved to be done with that test and feeling excitement for the career I was about to embark on. I was finally a lawyer. At 26 my career was beginning and I was making big money and it was great.

But it never really was great. For years I’ve told friends and family how much I dislike the confrontation that comes along with being a lawyer. I don’t like dealing with other lawyers. I don’t like the stress. I don’t like sitting in an office all day long staring at a computer and reading 200 page documents. I’ve never loved my job. But I stayed for many reasons. My firm was one of the good ones. My coworkers had become close friends over the years. My student loans didn’t magically go away. My diplomas needed to mean something; law school couldn’t have been for naught. The money.  So I stayed and lived for the evenings and weekends when I didn’t have to be a lawyer.

Then I became a mom and really struggled with continuing in a job I didn’t love while leaving my baby boy in daycare for 9 hours a day. But I continued knowing my boy was safe and happy and that my working was best for my family in the long run. And then second baby came along and I really struggled as a working mom. I cried many days in my office and had many conversations about it being too much. My boss knew I was not juggling things well and I think he expected me to leave. My husband, ever supportive, had the hard talks with me. We made the decision to put his career first, which allowed him to apply for a job that would possibly relocate us, which it did.

I asked my firm if I could continue working remotely, for some reason not ready to give it all up yet. But my boss wasn’t keen on the idea. After some difficult discussions we ended up with an arrangement that left me as a contract employee with no guarantee of work, no benefits and no future with my firm. But it was better than nothing, and possibly my ticket to reducing my work stress and getting more time as a mom. Fast forward a few months and through a strange turn of events I ended up being loaned out by my firm to a client in my new town and have been an acting-in-house counsel for them since October of last year. I’m working full time again, though I am not an employee of my firm or the client. I only get paid when I work. I still have no vacation time or benefits, which includes a lack of maternity leave.

And here I sit over 4 months pregnant with a huge question mark in front of me. This secondment (as my loaner job is called) could be over any day and my firm doesn’t even know I’m pregnant. So it would seem that come January (if not sooner), I’ll finally get what I’ve been wanting since Lukas was born almost 5 years ago. To be a stay at home mom. So why am I not ecstatic?

The reality of the financial shift came crashing down around me last week when we plugged the numbers. In a nutshell, they don’t work. We have too many bills and our $1000 a month law school loans are a huge problem if I am not working. If I bring no money we can barely make ends meet every month (and that doesn’t even include the boy’s school which we’ve set aside savings for this year alone). So we set about finding a way to make it work. Reducing or cutting cable. Cutting our cell phone plans. No travel. $100 a month to eat out. $500 a month on groceries (including diapers, cleaning supplies, pet food, etc.). Reducing our energy and water bills by 10%. We can make it work, it is just going to take some big changes.

So rather than wait for the shoe to drop, we’ve instituted our new budget as of August 1. I planned all our meals for the week and then went grocery shopping on Saturday with $125 to spend. We spent $137, but bought a few items that will last a few months. Yet we forgot to buy bread, laundry detergent and soap. I refuse to sacrifice the quality and health of our food for the budget, so one way or another, we will make this work. It just might take some time.  I’m eating lunch with a girlfriend tomorrow and have already looked at the menu. I’d normally get the fajitas which cost $11.99 but have decided I’ll get 2 tacos with rice and beans for only $6.99 as that will preserve more money for the monthly eating-out budget.  I realize many people live on a budget and that I’ve been fortunate not to have to worry about these things, but it is a difficult shift for us nonetheless.

But the budget and reduction in money isn’t the only problem. I’m realizing that I’m scared of no longer being a lawyer. If I stop (which I may not even have a choice in the matter at least while the baby is young – no one would hire me right now anyway) does that mean my career is over? What will my lawyer friends think? What will my family think?  What will my kids think?  What will my old coworkers think? I don’t want to be a failure. I don’t want to be another statistic and another woman who couldn’t hack it in the legal world once she had children, but the reality is that the law is not a family friendly place. It’s just not. At least not the legal worlds I’ve lived in.

I’m also worried about the shift in my marriage that my occur if I no longer work. We’ve always been equals, but what will happen if I’m home all day while he’s working making money for our family? I trust my husband and I can work it out and will ride out any bumps that my happen, but I fear we won’t even realize there’s been a shift until it’s a crater.


The other reason I'm so confused about my mixed emotions is that I will still be working. I have my Beautycounter business which I truly love and feel so passionate about. But in all honesty it feels like a hobby more than a job right now, so I fear others won't view it as a real job. But perhaps that means it's the perfect job since it doesn't actually feel like one. It is fun and the women I work with are uplifting and supportive. I love educating others and helping people making healthier choices in their lives. I know if I put the time in to it, it can grow and be a successful venture for me - it already is and brings in the extra money we could use each month to travel or put away towards savings. I'm committed to making my business thrive, but it requires me to get out of my comfort zone and widen my network and grow. So there is some fear there, I just need to not let it hold me back.

I just wish I knew why I couldn’t grasp this opportunity to be free of a job I loathe and jump into this new, uncertain future with both feet.  I know I need to let go of the fear. I know I need to let go of caring about what anyone else thinks about my decisions and I know I need to embrace a simpler lifestyle for my family. But I’m just not sure how to let these fears go. Hopefully step number one was admitting so publicly to having them.

Monday, August 3, 2015

Happy Monday Y'all!

I just posted this on Instagram and wanted to share with y'all too!  Find your passion.  Live it. Love it!