#Lovewins

I know that I should leave well enough alone, but I can’t seem to do that. Today is a day I am proud to be an American and a day that will go down in the history books of this country.  Today the Supreme Court ruled that gay marriage is legal nationwide.  This is huge. I keep tearing up with every article I read and every picture I see of a marriage license being handed out today. How wonderful that this group of Americans now has the same rights as everyone else. The right to be by their loved one’s side when they are sick in the hospital. The right to enjoy tax benefits afforded only to married people. The right to be equal in the eyes of the law. Oh joyous day.

While most of my Facebook news feed has been filled with rainbow flags and praise for this decision, I couldn’t help but read some of the comments out there by those who oppose this step in history. The hate they are spreading is saddening. And I just do not understand. I cannot comprehend how two men marrying or two women marrying affect anyone else in any way.  My life will continue as it has before. But my friend from law school can now marry his boyfriend. My coworker’s marriage that had to take place in NYC will now be recognized in Georgia. And many other gay friends can now marry whomever they choose.  Isn’t this a good thing?

The hate that is being voiced pushes me farther and farther away from religion. I don’t want to be associated with people who can’t see how hurtful these words are to others. The Christians who are speaking out against this decision are putting up a wall for those of us on the fence. We haven’t been sure we wanted to belong anyway, and your words are making it clear that we don’t. My God loves all. End of story. 

I saw one comment that said God loves all; he just hates the sin. What a disheartening message to homosexuals everywhere. You are still loved by God, but your entire way of living is wrong and God hates it. I cannot for the life of me understand this rationale. If one of my children is gay, I want them to grow up knowing they are wholly and without question loved. Every part of them and every aspect of them. If my son decides to marry another man, I want to rejoice at his wedding and will beam with pride as only a mother does at her child’s wedding. I don’t want my boys to ever feel less than. And I’m proud that our country is moving in the direction to lift up all homosexuals and their families. But I am truly sadden by how much hate is floating out there in this world. I just don’t see what people are scared of.

Love is all that matters. Love is all there is.

Love wins.