One of the blogs I regularly read is Motherlode. Today's article refers to another article who's author stated that you're a successful parent if you get your kids to adulthood with "No sleeping, eating or sexual hang-ups.” This made me smile and realize that a lot of what I've found myself fretting over as a parent, is really silly.
For example, for the past week or so I've been going back and forth on whether or not to start Lukas on rice cereal. I can't tell you how many articles I've read on the subject. Never mind the number of quizzes entitled something like "Is your baby ready for solids?" The articles and quizzes all conflict with one another and no matter what I decide, someone will say I'm wrong. I just need to make a decision and be OK with it. And realize that whatever I decide is, most likely, not going to cause my child any problems.
Another silly worry I've had lately has been with putting Lukas to bed. Some books you read say its the worst thing ever to let you baby fall asleep while you nurse him or while you're holding him. They go so far as to tell you to WAKE THEM UP and then put them in their crib so they can fall asleep on their own. Now if this isn't counterproductive, then I'm not sure what is. Other books say I should let him cry himself to sleep, while yet others say I should go to him and comfort him or else he'll always hate his crib. Again, any decision I make will be wrong in the eyes of some "expert" and right in the eyes of another.
So I'm going to chill out a little bit and stop worrying. Or at least attempt to.
And I think I'll borrow the above goal of getting Lukas to adulthood without having any sleeping, eating or sexual hangups. Wait, I just realized my above "problems" could result in the first two hangups. Shit. I'm probably screwed.
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